I am getting handfasted on Tuesday, September 4th, for a year and a day! It will be a non-ordained ceremony, in my home, at my private altar. Just him and me and the Gods. I can’t believe it! Now, I’ve got a WHOLE LOT of writing to do…and of course, I’ll share. Just wanted to let you know. It all came on so suddenly. He is my Master (we are in a bdsm relationship – an “open” relationship) and I am his slave. I asked him, because my official “collaring” will be Tuesday, if he wanted me to cast a full circle, and he said, “yes”, then I just threw it out there, “Do you want to get handfasted as well”, and he said, “yes”. I AM SOOOO EXCITED!
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Rites of passage.
Wiccans not only mark the seasons, the Sun and the Moon, but we also mark certain phases of life. Here is a run-down of them:
A Wiccaning is (well, not similar to a baptism, except that it’s done for a baby), well a Wiccaning is when a new child is introduced to the world. It is a ceremony where the Wiccan community does NOT agree to raise the child Wiccan (as opposed to baptism), but where the community welcomes the child into the world and promises to love and protect it. Simple as that.
A Coming of Age ceremony is performed for boys and girls….and it signifies the transformation from child to adult. For boys….it’s when they start developing hair on their bodies (age 13 or so), and for girls, it is when they have their first period.
A Handfasting is a Wiccan wedding. Handfastings can be LEGALLY BINDING CONTRACTS if the person performing them is an ordained minister. And there are several out there. That’s my next step….to become ordained. In a handfasting, the marriage contract varies…..traditionally (and back in the days of yore) it was for a year and a day (a time period that Witches respected). If after that period of time, the marriage wasn’t working out, both parties could walk away free and clear. There is also a
LIFETIME handfasting….similar to a Christian marriage….and some even go further and vow to love each other in this life AND EVERY LIFE HEREAFTER….and this is highly recommended AGAINST. But, some people do it anyway. In a handfasting, the hands of the couple are bound in a handfasting cord while a blessing is spoken over them. It really is a beautiful, unique ceremony. If you want more information, it’s easy to find people’s handfasting ceremonies on the web. The vows are usually written by the couple. Handfasting cords can be found online. I have a simple one for my next marriage….it’s a simple white satin cord with gold threads in it and is capped at both ends. It’s about 6 feet long. However, more intricate handfasting cords are out there, with different colors braided in and charms put on the ends. I plan on embellishing my handfasting cord in such a way, because the embellished ones on the internet start at $100 or so…and just go up. I got mine for about $20. I have decided to go to my local craft store and buy a skein of red and a skein of blue cording….red for passionate love, and blue for loyalty. And I plan on buying charms for it from a catalog, or online….whatever is right. The entire thing should only cost half of what they charge on the internet
children. It is when she comes into her “wise woman” or “Crone” aspect. These days, a lot of authors say there is no male equivalent, but there is….a “Saging”. While a man never stops being able to make children, the time varies as to when he is “Saged” but usually when he is known as a keeper of wisdom and is come to for advice.
And finally, there is death, which we call “Crossing Over” . It’s when we cross over to the Summerlands to rest and await rebirth. FYI….the ancient Celts called the Summerlands, “Emania”
Astarte was connected with fertility, sexuality, and war. Her symbols were the lion, the horse, the sphinx, the dove, and a star within a circle indicating the planet Venus. Pictorial representations often show her naked. She has been known as the deified evening star.
Astarte was accepted by the Greeks under the name of Aphrodite. The island of Cyprus, one of Astarte’s greatest faith centers, supplied the name Cypris as Aphrodite’s most common byname.
Other major centers of Astarte’s worship were Sidon, Tyre, and Byblos. Coins from Sidon portray a chariot in which a globe appears, presumably a stone representing Astarte. “She was often depicted on Sidonian coins as standing on the prow of a galley, leaning forward with right hand outstretched, being thus the original of all figureheads for sailing ships.” In Sidon, she shared a temple with Eshmun. Coins from Beirut show Poseidon, Astarte, and Eshmun worshipped together.
Lady of Galera
Other faith centers were Cythera, Malta, and Eryx in Sicily from which she became known to the Romans as Venus Erycina. A bilingual inscription on the Pyrgi Tablets dating to about 500 BC found near Caere in Etruria equates Astarte with Etruscan Uni-Astre that is, Juno. At Carthage Astarte was worshipped alongside the goddess Tanit.
Donald Harden in The Phoenicians discusses a statuette of Astarte from Tutugi (Galera) near Granada in Spain dating to the 6th or 7th century BC in which Astarte sits on a throne flanked by sphinxes holding a bowl beneath her pierced breasts. A hollow in the statue would have been filled with milk through the head and gentle heating would have melted wax plugging the holes in her breasts, producing an apparent miracle when the milk emerged.
NOT A COMPLETE LIST! But it gives you a start.
REMEMBER: SOME OF THESE PLANTS ARE POISONOUS (ALSO CALLED BANE).
Get two books to help you with this: Scott Cunningham’s Encyclopedia of Magical Herbs, AND get a book on the native plants growing in your area…it will come in handy. If you have no space for a garden, take your local book and go to a park or natural area and see what you can find. Others you can grow in a windowsill….
Look for plants that have many properties…for example: Lemon Balm. If it grows in your area, it is really simple to grow (Believe me…If I can’t kill it, it’s pretty tough…lol). Lemon Balm is a wonder herb that you can also use in your tea. If you pick a leaf and rub it…it has a WONDERFUL scent to it, like lemon drop candy. Mint is another good one to grow. Look around in the Spring at your local stores and see what they have to offer. It’s best to grow it yourself, harvest it yourself, dry it yourself. REMEMBER: only take a small portion…do not kill the plant!
And yes….a Chia Herb Garden is perfectly viable!
In a pinch, you can use spices off your spice rack…not the best option, but it will work. I’ve successfully done this before.
If anyone has something to add to the list, then please do so.
ANGER MANAGEMENT: Almond, Catnip, Chamomile, Elecampane, Rose, Lemon Balm, Lavender, Mint, Passion flower, Vervain.
ANXIETY MANAGEMENT: Skullcap, Valerian
APATHY: Ginger, Peppermint
BEAUTY: Avocado, Catnip, Flax, Ginseng, Maidenhair fern, Rose, Rosemary, Witch hazel
BUSINESS SUCCESS: Basil, Hawthorn, Sandalwood, Squill Root
COURAGE: Borage, Cedar, Columbine, Masterwort, Mullein, Sweet pea, Thyme, Tonka bean, Yarrow
DEPRESSION MANAGEMENT: Catnip, Celandine, Daisy, Hawthorn, Honeysuckle, Hyacinth, Lemon Balm, Lily of the Valley, Marjoram, Morning Glory, Saffron, Shepherd’s Purse
DIVINATION: Camphor, Dandelion, Goldenrod, Ground Ivy, Henbane, Hazelnut, Hibiscus, Meadowsweet, Mugwort, Pomegranate
EMPLOYMENT: Bergamot, Bayberry, Bay Leaf, Pecan, Pine
ENEMIES: Patchouli, Slippery Elm
FRIENDSHIP: Lemon, Orange, Sunflower, Sweet Pea, Tonka Bean, Vanilla
GAMBLING: Buckeye, Chamomile, Pine
GOSSIP MANAGEMENT: Clove, Deerstongue, Nettle, Rue, Slippery Elm, Snapdragon
HEALTH/HEALING: Fennel, Flax, Garlic, Ginseng, Golden Seal, Heliotrope, Hops, Horehound, Ivy, Lemon Balm, Life Everlasting, Mint, Mugwort, Myrrh, Nasturtium, Nutmeg, Oak, Olive, Onion, Pepperming, Persimmon, Pine, Plaintain, Rosemary, Rowan, Rue, Saffron, Sandlewood, Shepherd’s Purse, Thistle, Thyme, Vervain, Violet, Willow, Wintergreen, Yerba Santa
HEARTBREAK MANAGEMENT: Apple, Bitterweet, Cyclamen, Honeysuckle, Jasmine, Lemon Balm, Magnolia, Peach, Strawberry, Yarrow
HUNTING: Acorn, Apple, Cypress, Juniper, Mesquite, Oak, Pine, Sage, Vanilla
LEGAL MATTERS: Buckthorn, Celandine, Chamomile, Galangal, Hicokory, High John, Marigold
LIBERATION: Chicory, Cypress, Lavender, Lotus, Mistletoe, Moonflower
LOVE: Herbs are: Adam & Eve Root, Allspice, Apple, Apricot, Balm of Gilead, Basil, Bleeding Heart, Cardamon, Catnip, Chamomile, Cinnamon, Clove, Columbine, Copal, Coriander, Crocus, Cubeb, Daffodil, Daisy, Damiana, Dill, Elecampane, Elm, Endive, Fig, Gardinia, Geranium, Ginger, Hisbiscus, Lavender, Lemon Balm, lemon Verbena, Linden, Lobelia, Lotus, Loveage, Maidenhair Fern, Mandrake, Maple, Marjoram, Myrtle, Nutmeg, Orchid, Pansy, Peach, peppermint, Periwinkle, Poppy, Primrose, Rose, Rosemary, Rue, Saffron, Skullcap, Spearmint, Spiderwort, Strawberry, Thyme, Tonka Bean, Tulip, Vanilla, Vervain, Violet, Willow, Wood Betony, Yarrow.
LUCK: Allspice, Anise, Bluebell, Calamus, China Berry, Daffodil, Hazel, Heather, Holly, Job’s Tears, Linden, Lucky Hand, Nutmeg, Oak, Orange, persimmon, Pomegranate, Poppy, Rose, Snakeroot, Vertivert, Violet
LUST: Allspice, Caraway, Carrot, Cattail, Cinnamon, Cinquefoil, Clove, Damiana, Deerstongue, Dill, Foxglove, Galangal, Ginseng, Hibiscus, Mistletoe, Parsley, Rosemary, Sesame, Southernwood, Vanilla, Violet, Yohimbe
MENOPAUSE: Black Cohosh, Lavender, Pepperment, Sage
MENTAL POWERS: All Heal, Bay leaf, Caraway, Celery Seed, Forget-Me-Not, Hazel, Horehound, Lily of the Valley, Lotus, Pansy, Periwinkle, Rue, Sandalwood, Spikenard, Summer Savory, Spearmint
NIGHTMARE PREVENTION: Mullein, Chamomile
PMS: Feverfew, Jasmine, Lavender, Rose
PROPHETIC DREAMS: Anise, Chamomile, Cinquefoil, Cloves, Heliotrope, Jasmine, Mimosa, Mint, Mugwort, Rose, Rosemary, Valerian
PROSPERITY: Almond, Bay leaf, Basil, Bergamot, Cedar, Chamomile, Cinnamon, Cinquefoil, Clover, Mandrake, Marjoram, May Apple, Myrtle, Oak
PROTECTION: Some good herbs are: African Violet, Agrimony, Aloe Vera, Alyssum, Angelica, Anise, Arrowroot, Asafoetida, Balm of Gilead, Basil, Bay leaf, Birch, Bladderwack, Boneset, Bromeliad, Broom, Burdock, Cactus, Calamus, Caraway, Carnation, Cedar, Chrysanthemum, Cinnamon, Cinquefoil, Clove, Clover, Cumin, Curry, Cyclamen, Cypress, Datura, Dill, Dogwood, Dragon’s Blood, Elder, Elecampane, Eucalyptus, Fennel, Feverwort, Flax, Fleabane, Foxglove, Frankincense, Galangal, Garlic, Geranium, Ginseng, Heather, Holly, Honeysuckle, Horehound, Houseleek, Hyacinth, Hyssop, Ivy, Juniper, Lady’s Slipper, larkspur, Lavender, Lilac, Lily, Linden, Lotus, Lucky Hand, Mallow, Mandrake, Marigold, Mimosa, Mint, Mistletoe, Mugwort, Mulberry, Peony, Pepper, Periwinkle, Pine, Plaintain, Primrose, Quince, Radish, Raspberry, Rattlesnake Root, Rhubarb, Rose, Rowan, Rue, Sage, St. John’s Wort, Sandalwood, Snapdragon, Southernwood, Spanish Moss, Sweet Woodruff, Thistle, Tulip, Valerian, Vervain, Violet, Willow, Wintergreen, Witch Hazel, Wolfbane, Wormwood, Wood Betony, Yucca
PSYCHIC ABILITY: Celery, Cinnamon, Citronella, Elecampane, Eyebright, Flax, Galangal, Honeysuckle, Lemongrass, Mace, Marigold, Mugwort, Peppermint, Rose, Rowan, Star Anise, Thyme, Uva Ursa, Wormwood, Yarrow
SEXUAL HARASSMENT MANAGEMENT: Bergamot, Camphor, Salt Petre, Vervain, Witch Hazel
SLEEP: Agrimony, Chamomile, Cinquefoil, Elder, Hops, Lavender, Linden, Peppermint, Rosemary, Shepherd’s Purse, Thyme, Valerian, Vervain
STRENGTH: Acorn, Bay leaf, Carnation, Cinquefoil, Elder, Hops, Lavender, Linden, Peppermint, Rosemary, Shepherd’s Purse, Thyme, Valerian, Vervain
STRESS MANAGEMENT: Calandula, Chamomile, Comfrey, Hops, Lavender, Nettle, Oats, St. John’s Wort, Passion Flower, Skullcap
SUCCESS: Cinnamon, Clover, Ginger, High John, Lemon Balm, Orange, Rowan
THEFT: Caraway, Elder, Garlic, Gentain, Juniper, Rosemary, Vertivert
TRAVEL: Blatterwack, Lavender
VICTORY: Bay leaf, High John, Olive
WISDOM: Hazel, Rowan, Sage, Spikenard
WISHES: Bay leaf, Dandelion, Dogwood, Hazel, Job’s Tears, Sage, Sunflower, Tonka Bean, Vanilla, Vervain, Violet, Walnut